If your brother wrongs you, go and show him his fault, between you and him privately. If he listens to you, you have won back your brother. ~Matthew 18:15
Recently I had a dear friend who begin to become very distant and different with me. At first I let it slide, thinking everyone has a bad day every now and then. But when I talked to her again twice during a two week period, her attitude became worse and more distant.
I begun to wonder, did I do something wrong? My mind ran over and over on what I could of done? What I could of said? Even what I could of written? I searched and wondered hard, but nothing came to my mind. I started to become paranoid (Paranoia will truly destroy ya!)
I sat on it for awhile and even got sad thinking I had lost another friend over something I had no clue on (High School Drama... again.) Girls are truly the cruelest at times and I had gone through that too much, but this friend was different, she was truly one of the greatest friends I have had, so what in the world went wrong?.
I didn’t want to lose this friend, she was too dear to me, to not know the reason why our friendship had change? So I sucked up the courage and ask her. Something that wasn’t easy for me to do, but I felt I had to. I needed to know.
It turns out that she had, had a really bad month and was tired and hurt from a ton of bad news. She had no clue I was feeling this way and was unaware of her hurt towards me. It greatly hurt her to know about this, but we both were happy to know everything actually was okay.
What a relief this was, but how sad all of it could of turned out. I will admit that I started to get upset. I might have even gotten to the point of avoiding her and eventually losing her all together.
I think too often we do this. We assume the worse, when in reality it’s something very different. We don’t realize what the other person is thinking. It’s not always about you and we let each other go, too easily, when two simple words can settle your problem and mend back your friendship, that truly was never gone.
My lesson today is...DON’T be afraid to ask, What’s wrong? It’s so worth it!
How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity! ~Psalm 133 :1